In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger shows us that the key to being happier is to stop trying to be 'positive' all the time and instead to become better at handling adversity.
For decades we've been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. But those days are over. 'F*ck positivity,' Mark Manson says. 'Let's be honest; sometimes things are f*cked up and we have to live with it.' For the past few years Manson--via his wildly popular blog--has been working on correcting our delusional expectations for ourselves and for the world. He now brings his hard-fought wisdom to this groundbreaking book.
Manson makes the argument--backed by both academic research and well-timed poop jokes--that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to better stomach lemons. Human beings are flawed and limited--as he writes, 'Not everybody can be extraordinary--there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault.' Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. This, he says, is the real source of empowerment. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties--once we stop running from and avoiding, and start confronting painful truths--we can begin to find the courage and confidence we desperately seek.
'In life, we have a limited amount of f*cks to give. So you must choose your f*cks wisely.' Manson brings a much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor. This manifesto is a refreshing slap in the face for all of us so that we can start to lead more contented, grounded lives.
'Resilience, happiness, and freedom come from knowing what to care about--and, most importantly, what not to care about. This is a masterful, philosophical, and practical book that will give readers the wisdom to be able to do just that.' - Ryan Holiday, New York Times bestselling author of The Obstacle is the Way and Ego is the Enemy
'The opposite of every other book. Don't try. Give up. Be wrong. Lower your standards. Stop believing in yourself. Follow the pain. And oh yeah, kill yourself. Each point is profoundly true, useful, and more powerful than the usual positivity. Succinct but surprisingly deep; I read it in one night, and now need to read it again.' - Derek Sivers, founder of CD Baby and author of Anything You Want: 40 Lessons for a New Kind of Entrepreneur
'Mark's ability to dig deep and offer amazing, yet counterintuitive, insight into the challenges of life makes him one of my favourite writers, and this book is his best work yet.' - Matt Kepnes, New York Times bestselling author of How to Travel the World on $50 a Day: Travel Cheaper, Longer, Smarter
'This book hits you like a much-needed slap in the face from your best friend: hilarious, vulgar, and immensely thought-provoking. Only read if you're willing to set aside all excuses and take an active role in living a f*cking better life.' - Steve Kamb, bestselling author of Level Up Your Life and founder of NerdFitness.com
AUTHOR: Mark Manson is a star blogger with more than two million readers. He lives in New York City.